My date last night was awkward at first. Why did I think it’d be a good idea to invite a guy to my apartment for a game of tennis? Really? Actually the tennis ended up being a highlight of the night. For starters, he wasn’t that good, at least I was expecting more since he had taken tennis lessons. In fact, I won the first 2 games we played together, then realized that’s probably not a good strategy for dating this guy, and I should let him win. I didn't want to bust his ego. So I let him take the next 2 games and the tie breaker.
After the game we went back to cook dinner and hang out. The weird part was when he was changing in my bathroom he came out with his shirt off. He wasn’t in good shape so his hairy belly grossed me out. And why did he think that was a good idea? I’m cooking here and working with food and wanted to puke all over dinner, gross. Like I’d see that and jump all over him, no thanks. He did put his other shirt on, thank you jebus.
He actually was a really nice good guy, we talked a lot about Match dating, work, and traveling. He seems to have a bit of a shady past, but don’t we all get into trouble now and again. He warned me that he has a serious Sysco ex-girlfriend who keyed one of his date’s car last week. I immediately regretting letting him come to my house, since sysco might just be stalking him and now knows where I live, great.
My dog loved this guy; he was smart and brought him a raw ride. Ahhh, a man after my dog’s heart.
I really wasn’t feeling him though, but I’d love to play tennis again, so maybe he can go in my tennis buddy friend corner, or not. Most likely I’ll never see him again. Dating sucks, I just want to meet someone that really sparks.
Thursday, February 24, 2011
The Gymnast
Date night with the gymnast, I must say was pretty fun. We met up for drinks at a local hot spot. He was waiting outside for me and we sat in the nice cool evening for a few beers. His roommate was our waiter, which I guess was good for him seeing he picked up the bill. He introduced me to Johnson, haha… I responded with, can I call you “penis”? I thought it was funny; luckily they did too, whew. So we chatted for a long time and had quite a few beers. He was really shy and quiet so I did a lot of talking, but I guess that’s good.
It’s always funny when people ask you what you majored in college and then they assume that you still pay attention to that crap. Oh I majored in Economics, immediate following question, “What do you think about the economy?” Umm, I have a job so that’s good. I obviously don’t run economic analysis on the state of union, duh. And everything I know is all the basic stuff anyone knows, for example: Unemployment = bad
Of course I remember a bunch of other stuff, but I really don’t spend my free time analyzing the stock markets or watching what the Fed is doing… sorry, I’d rather be running the lake or playing with my dog, or watching Amazing Race (I love that show).
Date ended well, no kissing, and I really had the impression we’d hang out again. We talked about introducing our dogs and getting them together. Alas, it’s been 3 weeks and I haven’t heard a word. That’s okay, even though I really wanted to see him do a back flip, which would be really impressive. He was pretty short and not very outgoing.
It’s always funny when people ask you what you majored in college and then they assume that you still pay attention to that crap. Oh I majored in Economics, immediate following question, “What do you think about the economy?” Umm, I have a job so that’s good. I obviously don’t run economic analysis on the state of union, duh. And everything I know is all the basic stuff anyone knows, for example: Unemployment = bad
Of course I remember a bunch of other stuff, but I really don’t spend my free time analyzing the stock markets or watching what the Fed is doing… sorry, I’d rather be running the lake or playing with my dog, or watching Amazing Race (I love that show).
Date ended well, no kissing, and I really had the impression we’d hang out again. We talked about introducing our dogs and getting them together. Alas, it’s been 3 weeks and I haven’t heard a word. That’s okay, even though I really wanted to see him do a back flip, which would be really impressive. He was pretty short and not very outgoing.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
It’s official
I’m now 30, say goodbye to my 20s. I guess the key lesson here is nothing really changed, you think by turning 30 you might have some kind of ‘come to Jesus’ moment, or suddenly the world makes sense. Nope, I must have already turned 30 a year ago when I made some major decisions in my life about what I hold important, and now my driver’s license has finally caught up.
As for love and relationships, I’m still single and spend my nights cuddling my dog. But I’m going to forgive myself this year and stop feeling down about not having someone to come home to. I want to forgive myself for failed relationships, failed dating experiences and just stop putting pressure on myself to build my own family. I want to focus on building myself up and those around me. I want to tell all my friends and family how much they mean to me and how fabulous it is to have their love and support and I want to return that love and support. I spent too much time over the past year analyzing what I was doing or not doing as well as the men I meet. Instead, I should just be me and be happy. Stop putting the pressure of having to meet “the one”, get married and have kids. I need to keep encouraging myself to put myself out there, and just feel more with my heart than my brain. Stop the rules and just go with my feelings.
The person I am now is more serious about herself and goals, but I need the balance between taking myself seriously and enjoying life like I was still 20.
Things to do now that I’m 30:
1) Let go of the past
2) Forgive myself
3) Appreciate the Present
4) Follow my heart
5) Give Love
6) Accept Love
These things are not completely foreign, but sometimes I get sidetracked and lose a sense of who I am and the wonderful things I have in life. Being upset about what I don’t have, stops now.
As for love and relationships, I’m still single and spend my nights cuddling my dog. But I’m going to forgive myself this year and stop feeling down about not having someone to come home to. I want to forgive myself for failed relationships, failed dating experiences and just stop putting pressure on myself to build my own family. I want to focus on building myself up and those around me. I want to tell all my friends and family how much they mean to me and how fabulous it is to have their love and support and I want to return that love and support. I spent too much time over the past year analyzing what I was doing or not doing as well as the men I meet. Instead, I should just be me and be happy. Stop putting the pressure of having to meet “the one”, get married and have kids. I need to keep encouraging myself to put myself out there, and just feel more with my heart than my brain. Stop the rules and just go with my feelings.
The person I am now is more serious about herself and goals, but I need the balance between taking myself seriously and enjoying life like I was still 20.
Things to do now that I’m 30:
1) Let go of the past
2) Forgive myself
3) Appreciate the Present
4) Follow my heart
5) Give Love
6) Accept Love
These things are not completely foreign, but sometimes I get sidetracked and lose a sense of who I am and the wonderful things I have in life. Being upset about what I don’t have, stops now.
Friday, December 17, 2010
Stargazer
Ahhh, for years I would ask my ex-boyfriend for flowers. On my birthday or valentines or anything! “Flowers aren’t my style,” no joke cause your style sucks, just like you. I went on a date last night and arrived to a very handsome gentleman holding a bouquet of stargazer lilies. I tried not to completely over-react, but my heart soared. What an amazing jester, and honestly I never realized what a total sap I am. To top it off, he already ordered a spread of cheese and a bottle of wine. He seemed really genuine about taking my coat and pulling out my chair and just pampering me. So this is how women should be treated? I didn’t think this type of man actually existed? Somebody pinch me!
We had a wonderful dinner, which ended up being quite fancy. We did a tapas thing ordering several appetizers to share and a flight of wine along with a desert wine. It was very nice and I was so glad I was in my work clothes still, heels, makeup, jewelry, slacks… because he was also wearing a sports coat and jeans, very handsome.
We had a good conversation and really seemed to hit it off. He was a true gentleman too walking me to my car and kissing my cheek goodnight. I can’t wait to see him again. I am really blown away with his attention and thoughtfulness.
The only thing that threw me off was that he did confess to stalking me on LinkedIn, haha. He wanted to see what I did for a living; I guess double check that I wasn’t a total bum. If I had his last name I would do the same, hehe. I also hope he’s not this fancy all the time. I’m a ‘shit in the woods kind of girl’ on the weekends and I hope he has a down home sense of style as well. AHH how I LOVE my flowers though, so beautiful!
We had a wonderful dinner, which ended up being quite fancy. We did a tapas thing ordering several appetizers to share and a flight of wine along with a desert wine. It was very nice and I was so glad I was in my work clothes still, heels, makeup, jewelry, slacks… because he was also wearing a sports coat and jeans, very handsome.
We had a good conversation and really seemed to hit it off. He was a true gentleman too walking me to my car and kissing my cheek goodnight. I can’t wait to see him again. I am really blown away with his attention and thoughtfulness.
The only thing that threw me off was that he did confess to stalking me on LinkedIn, haha. He wanted to see what I did for a living; I guess double check that I wasn’t a total bum. If I had his last name I would do the same, hehe. I also hope he’s not this fancy all the time. I’m a ‘shit in the woods kind of girl’ on the weekends and I hope he has a down home sense of style as well. AHH how I LOVE my flowers though, so beautiful!
80s Rock Star
I really wish I blogged about this guy before I met stargazer, because now I’m unjustly comparing a good date to another good date. I love these good dates; both guys are so much better than piano man! 80s rock star is a genuine guy, real down to earth, and casual. He’s very much a match for who I am in general and we had a fabulous time together. But I didn’t get flowers…
Flowers are soo smart, any single guys out there, bring your date flowers. You may not realize this, girls take them home and put them in a vase, and every time they look at them or smell them, they immediately think of you. It’s genius!
Okay back to my Wednesday night date with rock star. He’s in a 80s cover band, haha. He’s actually a really nice guy, a little older, but really sweet. I talked a lot about babies though, simply because a lot of new babies are coming into my life with my friends and family. He then asked a question that hit me hard. Are all of your friends married and have kids? Wow, besides match dating, I have not gone out with any other singles. In fact, I could only name one friend that doesn’t live in the same town as me that is single. No wonder I’m in desperate need of a dating life.
I really wanted to invite rock star back to my place for some Christmas cookies decorating enjoyment, but didn’t. Not sure what held me back but first dates just seem like they should end there and not go too late. But honestly I should start following my heart and feelings and stop being so rules based.
Here are my rules:
1) no kissing on the first date
2) no extreme drinking
3) no discussion about other boys or ex
4) meet them out, do not let them know where you live
5) do not talk about sex or sexual things
I guess that’s pretty much it, and I guess that’s why I’ve been such a prude, but honestly I want a boyfriend not a one night stand. Maybe I should just try to kills those rules and see what happens, hehe. Then wake up the next day with a hang over and a strange man in my bedroom. Bad idea, we should stick to the rules.
Rock star is out of town this weekend and stargazer is in town. I’m thinking about asking stargazer to my friend’s holiday party… I would love to see what everyone thinks of him and I would love to see him again. And this time have a real good night kiss.
Flowers are soo smart, any single guys out there, bring your date flowers. You may not realize this, girls take them home and put them in a vase, and every time they look at them or smell them, they immediately think of you. It’s genius!
Okay back to my Wednesday night date with rock star. He’s in a 80s cover band, haha. He’s actually a really nice guy, a little older, but really sweet. I talked a lot about babies though, simply because a lot of new babies are coming into my life with my friends and family. He then asked a question that hit me hard. Are all of your friends married and have kids? Wow, besides match dating, I have not gone out with any other singles. In fact, I could only name one friend that doesn’t live in the same town as me that is single. No wonder I’m in desperate need of a dating life.
I really wanted to invite rock star back to my place for some Christmas cookies decorating enjoyment, but didn’t. Not sure what held me back but first dates just seem like they should end there and not go too late. But honestly I should start following my heart and feelings and stop being so rules based.
Here are my rules:
1) no kissing on the first date
2) no extreme drinking
3) no discussion about other boys or ex
4) meet them out, do not let them know where you live
5) do not talk about sex or sexual things
I guess that’s pretty much it, and I guess that’s why I’ve been such a prude, but honestly I want a boyfriend not a one night stand. Maybe I should just try to kills those rules and see what happens, hehe. Then wake up the next day with a hang over and a strange man in my bedroom. Bad idea, we should stick to the rules.
Rock star is out of town this weekend and stargazer is in town. I’m thinking about asking stargazer to my friend’s holiday party… I would love to see what everyone thinks of him and I would love to see him again. And this time have a real good night kiss.
Monday, December 6, 2010
REALLY?
Here’s one of the latest messages I received.
“hi
how r u today
ur profile and pixs captured my attntion .
u r cut and sincere lady .
in my opinion as a doctor
if u like
iwiill be ur way to happiness
doc cool”
Not only does this guy refer to himself as Dr. Cool; but he can’t take the time out of his hectic 'doctor' schedule to type a real email (not text lingo) and spell check. He certainly captures my attention, to award his email as WORSE EVER.
“hi
how r u today
ur profile and pixs captured my attntion .
u r cut and sincere lady .
in my opinion as a doctor
if u like
iwiill be ur way to happiness
doc cool”
Not only does this guy refer to himself as Dr. Cool; but he can’t take the time out of his hectic 'doctor' schedule to type a real email (not text lingo) and spell check. He certainly captures my attention, to award his email as WORSE EVER.
Pianoman #3
I arrived 30 minutes early to my date last Friday; I wasn’t sure how long it would take to cross town with traffic. It wasn’t a big deal, I sat in my car and gabbed on the phone with my sister. At 7:10; I decided head in and grab a table. We were meeting at 7:15pm. By 7:20, I have a glass of wine to sip while I wait, and I’m thinking to myself “should I text him? No, I’m not that girl who can’t handle him being 5-10 minutes late. I’ll just go ahead and order an appetizer.” As I finish my appetizer, the wait staff politely checks on me to see if I needed anything else. Their concern which was the same as mine, “am I being stood up?” was overwhelming. There’s no way I’m gonna be stood up, this has never happened to me, I wonder if I could get a free dessert out of this? Finally a text at 7:41pm, “Hey, I’m at the Domain but can’t seem to find it.” F-ing finally, I text back the SUPER easy landmark that I told him the other night. He sat down at 7:56pm, I know the exact time because I looked at my watch. As soon as I saw him, I was just overjoyed that I wasn’t being stood up that I wasn’t about to bitch him out at this nice restaurant. I should have! BTW- he said he was lost and he wasn’t that late, are you kidding me?
The rest of the date went well, we ate and drank and really fell into some good conversation about music, and life. After dinner we sat outside by the fire pit and talked for another hour. I am really liking this guy and his tardiness is slowly drifting from my mind. It was getting late; I hoped he’d ask me back to his place for another drink. He lives really close, and talked about all his x-mas decorations and I mentioned how I’d love to see them. But alas, he said, oh you should probably get back to your dog. Hum, really I don’t have to, but I can’t invite myself over to his house, urgh, can I? I settled for a hug and an awkward potential kiss on the cheek. I thought he was going in, so I turned my head and the kiss ended up being a half lip to half lip weird thing. Then he said goodnight.
AHHH, I’m going to pull my hair out, I can’t believe that’s all I got… There seemed to be potential here, but the 40 minutes late? The awkward kiss? His aloof sense of everything is driving me insane. This was our 3rd date, he should have gone for it; maybe I should have gone for it. This guy is so frustrating! I’m not sure what I will do going forward; should I keep seeing him? If he was really excited to see me he could have been there early like I was or at least said he was sorry, instead of blowing it off. And he should kiss me, kiss me long and hard. But nothing; I have a feeling that’s exactly what I’d keep getting from him… nothing. I would have to make all the effort and cater to him, no thank you! I guess it’s time to say goodbye to the Pianoman.
The rest of the date went well, we ate and drank and really fell into some good conversation about music, and life. After dinner we sat outside by the fire pit and talked for another hour. I am really liking this guy and his tardiness is slowly drifting from my mind. It was getting late; I hoped he’d ask me back to his place for another drink. He lives really close, and talked about all his x-mas decorations and I mentioned how I’d love to see them. But alas, he said, oh you should probably get back to your dog. Hum, really I don’t have to, but I can’t invite myself over to his house, urgh, can I? I settled for a hug and an awkward potential kiss on the cheek. I thought he was going in, so I turned my head and the kiss ended up being a half lip to half lip weird thing. Then he said goodnight.
AHHH, I’m going to pull my hair out, I can’t believe that’s all I got… There seemed to be potential here, but the 40 minutes late? The awkward kiss? His aloof sense of everything is driving me insane. This was our 3rd date, he should have gone for it; maybe I should have gone for it. This guy is so frustrating! I’m not sure what I will do going forward; should I keep seeing him? If he was really excited to see me he could have been there early like I was or at least said he was sorry, instead of blowing it off. And he should kiss me, kiss me long and hard. But nothing; I have a feeling that’s exactly what I’d keep getting from him… nothing. I would have to make all the effort and cater to him, no thank you! I guess it’s time to say goodbye to the Pianoman.
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